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zegato77@hotmail.com
wrote...
Do you wish to be listed
anonymously? No
Which area is your meta4
useful in? Sexual
abuse
Which country are you in?
England
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Change is a natural process.
It reminds me of a river: weak at first, flows through
the possible ways through the mountains, and adapts
itself to the possible ways. Then, he finds that here
and there some other little rivers join it, and it
continues through the possible way through the mountains,
but without never forgetting the main objective- the
sea. And when the river encounters the sea, it's power
is total.
Ed's note:
...I wondered if you would not mind sending a further,
short explanation of 'where and why' you apply such
a meta4 to child abuse!
Hello there, Miguel
here..... Yes, it will be my pleasure to explain why
I use in certain cases such a metaphor with children:
Until they are
about 9 years old, children usually possess three
types of unconscious and cognitive behavioural (according
to Jean Piaget). They act Egocentrically, Non- logically
and Magically.
A child cannot
make the same cognitive logical process that an adult
does. Their minds are "protected" with archaic defense
mechanisms. In child sexual abuse we're dealing with
issues of Guilt, Shame masks, repressed anger towards
the abuser, anger against the self, trust is destroyed,
etc. and the child has to start to improve it's archaic
defense mechanisms and awareness long before the natural
time.
In therapy, change
to acceptance of feelings and the pain that is repressed,
has to be accepted. During this "trial" period of
time, extreme anger results in confusion and more
repression of feelings. Only with total acceptance
of the child's anger the therapist can actually develop
a field where the child will feel unconsciously safe
to start to develop trust and mourn.
This is a period
of adaptiveness, which many times, the feelings felt
by the child create extreme confusion, depression
and extreme low self- esteem. The river message, is
a message of hope. It is totaly concentrated to "talk"
to the child unconscious.
Every child interprets
it in their own way, but the bottom message is "you're
a river, the river adapts itself to the possible way
(feelings and new situations), the river when borns
is weak (feeling weak due to the abuse), but it never
forgets it's main objective, the sea (hope, to get
well,to give their lifes a meaning as man lives it's
life in search for meaning), and when the river encounters
the sea, it's ower is total (when finally their meet
their objective, to get well, they can reach hapiness
again and control over their lives)"
Ok, this is a
brief explanation of how this metaphor works. Is good
during the process of exploration of feelings about
the abuse. I presented to two children (6 & 7 years
old) this metaphor, and both of them in similar circumstances.
After I made A Rorschach assessment (projective psychodyagnostic
test), both of them shown an improvement in self-
esteem and self- acceptance. Ok Nathan, I hope that
I could be any help. Many thanx. Miguel
Ed. Thankyou
Miguel !!
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